🧩 Thinking & feelings · Ages 4–5 · about 3 weeks

When Plans Change

Goal: Name a feeling about a changed plan and choose a small next step with an adult.

For parents: A changed plan can be disappointing. Stay close and listen without rushing your child to feel cheerful. They may point or stay quiet. Offer company and a simple choice; practise through pretend play when everyone is comfortable.

Do together

  1. A rainy plan

    You need: Paper and crayons

    Draw Sara hoping to play outside, then add rain. Ask how she might feel; more than one answer can fit. Say, "You wanted to go outside. I can sit with you." Let your child draw what Sara might want next.

  2. Choose some company

    You need: A large soft toy

    Pretend Mia wanted a game that cannot happen now. Offer to sit nearby or sit together with the toy. Your child chooses, points or watches. Name a possible feeling gently and wait. They can change their choice.

  3. One next step

    You need: Paper and crayons

    Recall a small changed plan, or invent one. Listen to your child, then offer two available choices, such as drawing together or looking at a book. Choose one together. Explain that doing something else does not mean the disappointment must disappear.

Talk about it

  • How might Sara feel about the rain?
  • Would you like company or a little space?
  • What could we choose together now?

Words to use

  • plan
  • change
  • sad
  • disappointed
  • company
  • choose

Play

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